Starting Reception is a huge milestone – for children and parents. It marks the beginning of new routines, new friendships and a growing sense of independence. It can feel exciting, emotional and a little daunting all at once.
This guide is designed to support families wherever their child is going to school. It focuses on what “ready for Reception” really means, how to support your child emotionally and practically, and gentle ways to prepare without pressure.
What Does “Ready for Reception or Reception Readiness” Really Mean?
Being ready for school isn’t about reading early, writing neatly or sitting still for long periods. Reception readiness is more about:
- Feeling secure away from parents or carers
- Being able to communicate needs and feelings
- Following simple instructions
- Managing basic self-care (with support)
- Having confidence, curiosity and resilience
Children develop at different rates, and that’s completely normal. The aim is progress, not perfection.
Routines to Gently Introduce Before Reception
Children thrive on predictability. Introducing simple routines ahead of time helps school feel familiar rather than overwhelming.
Morning Routines
- Waking up at a similar time on weekdays
- Getting dressed after breakfast
- Brushing teeth and washing hands independently where possible
These small habits make early school mornings calmer for everyone.
Independence in Everyday Tasks
Encourage your child to practise:
- Using the toilet independently
- Washing and drying hands
- Putting on shoes and coats
- Having a go at zips and buttons
Support is always okay – confidence grows when children feel capable.
Snack and Mealtimes
- Opening lunchboxes or packets
- Drinking from their own bottle
- Sitting at a table for snack time
- Using cutlery
Turning this into a relaxed routine rather than a test helps enormously.
Tidy-Up Time
- Putting toys away
- Carrying their own bag
- Helping with simple household tasks
These responsibilities help children feel confident and included.
How to Talk to Your Child About Starting Reception
Children pick up on how we talk about school.
Keep Language Positive and Honest
- Talk about school as a place to explore, play and learn
- Be honest that it will feel different – and that that’s okay
- Avoid phrases like “you’ll have to be brave”, which can create anxiety
Use Stories and Play
- Read books about starting school
- Role-play school routines using toys
- Let your child take the lead in pretend play
Play is how children make sense of change.
Encourage Questions
- Answer simply and honestly
- Reassure them that adults at school are there to help
- Let them know it’s okay to feel unsure
Supporting Big Feelings
Even confident children can feel emotional about starting school.
- Acknowledge excitement and nerves
- Name feelings and talk about them openly
- Keep goodbyes calm and consistent
Children feel safer when their emotions are understood.
Building Confidence Before Reception
Confidence grows through everyday experiences:
- Offering choices
- Encouraging turn-taking
- Praising effort, not outcomes
- Allowing children to solve small problems themselves
Confidence is quiet – it’s believing “I can try”.
Preparing for Reception doesn’t mean rushing childhood.
It’s about steady routines, open conversations and helping children feel secure enough to explore the world beyond home. With the right support, children start school not just ready – but excited for what’s ahead.
If you’re interested in how we support Reception readiness at Banstead Prep, you can read more about our approach here.
